Sparks and Fireworks!

Hey Girls...

Relationships are fun aren't they? They're exciting and new and spontaneous! The initial meeting the guy brings so many sparks and butterflies that's it's hard to keep you're head in it and not just get caught up in every sweet moment-other times, we're confused and unsure if it's right and good. It is an emotional rollarcoaster and sometimes the wildest ride of our lives because relationships have the capacity to change our lives forever!

This is why it's important to keep our heads in it, with our hearts. Dating can start out with many sparks but if that's the main attraction- it won't last for long. Some people continually chase after the feeling of a new crush because their addicted to the butterflies and that's plain unhealthy. Sparks come and go over a long term relationship- it's just natural.

Often at the start of a relationship or even a short ways into it, you're impacted with so many emotions that it's hard to think clearly. This can produce negative results- it can rush the intmacy too far or sabatoge something that has very good potential. The important thing to remember is to pray. Always pray. Pray with your boyfriend- this is essential. From the start you and your boyfriend should be in the regular habit of praying together and even if it feels uncomfortable or awkward- do it anyway! This is the most important part of your relationship. If you begin you're relationship with both of you focusing on God, you'll have the assurance that both of you are looking for God's direction and you won't have to worry so much about the situation yourself. You can be confident that your boyfriend is seeking God's will and direction, just like you are. Not only that, but it keeps God at the center of the relationship- where he should be!

Nevertheless, relationships are emotional. You're learning to trust someone physically, spiritually and emotionally- some people find one area harder than the other. Learning to trust your boyfriend is another difficult part because you don't always know how he will recieve the information or intmacy you give him. What if he reacts badly when you pour out your heart to him? There are risks we take in love but the fact is, we have to take them otherwise we can't get close. You'll be the best judge of when you can reveal things to your boyfriend and when you feel you have established the right level of trust. But you have to be prepared for a not so good reaction- sometimes he needs to work through the things you tell him but it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you anymore. And same with him revealing personal things to you. Sharing your deepest self with each other (not physical intmacy mind you) bonds you together- it creates those sparks that keep your relational fire alive- ha, there's a cheesy sentence! It creates commitment and that must always come first.

My personal recconmendation would be that there is no secrets between a couple when they prepare to take marriage vows. In my experience, my husband and I knew everything- all the good and all the bad- about each other before we got married- and this emotional attachment, just helped to make our physical intmacy that much more meaningul. Secrets destroy a marriage- dating is the time to work through those things because it prepares you for the harder struggles that come with marriage.

Dating can be really hard because of the myrid of emotions and learning that happens between a new couple but it's worth it to jump right on into the mush and sort through all the tough stuff. Don't shy away from sharing your inner feelings with your guy- when you're at the stage in the relationship where you have established trust- because the sharing you two do, will create the bond that will last all your lifetime!!