Saturday, March 20, 2010

Not a Clue

Hi Girls,

You watch TV and movies, love stories, action stories- what's one thing media seems to have in common??? The answer is sex. No matter what type of film you're coming across, it seems there will always be one of those scenes. And what for? I find a lot of time it's completely needless and doesn't help the plot or character development one bit. Definately an example of directors and writers trying to feed the immoralities of their own minds and those of the viewing audience.

Sex scenes may feed the curiosity of the audience or give them desires for after the show but it's so fake. Completely unrealistic in most cases. Passion, people acting without thought, as if emotions control them... any married person can tell you how wrong TV has it (not that I'm saying there is no passion and craziness when you are married- just different). Media has taken what was meant for a married couple and thrown it all over the screens in a corrupted format. It's unfortunate that tweens and teens watch this stuff and get into their minds that it's showing what sex is like and how it's supposed to be. The media teaches them such lies.

How is the real thing supposed to measure up to what they see on TV? Well, I have my doubts that for most people it probably doesn't, which is why it's still so popular in media. And it's only one part of the problem really- this corruption leads people to fulfill their unmet desires in other formats, such as through pornograthy. People want to live out these sick fantasies that they create.

It's not real but yet people seem to want it, over and over again; they want what the cheap knock off. God intended something totally different for people. When you're married, you experience something pure, right, honourable and respectful between you and your husband. Christian couples can experience the blessing that God created in sex- why do you think it's often referred to as making love? Because that's what it is all about, showing love to each other.

I think it's sad too that Christian couples often get sidetracked by what they see on TV or in movies and allow their minds to be corrupted. Just because you're married doesn't mean sex will be perfect, or even simple; it can get complicated. But I'm speaking in broader terms, about the difference between what I think God intended and what society does. Sex is about love. Us married girls need to keep that in the forefront of our minds- it's about loving our husbands and recieving love from them. It's a selfless act not a selfish act. It's not always flashy or spectacular- even what God intended has been corrupeted from eons of sin but it's pure. This purity cannot be manufactured in any other way and it's what allows a husband and wife to totally give of themselves because there is no guilt or sin involved.

Guard your minds when you're watching TV and movies so the corruption that happens there does not become part of you're life and mind, effecting what God intended to be pure. This is important whether you're married or single. Remember the truth, hold tight to God and his desires of purity in your thoughts and actions, than when it comes time to love your husband in that way, you'll be able to truly love him, with all your heart and body, recieving much in return of what you are giving.

Friday, March 19, 2010

Thinking, thinking, doing??

Hey Girls,

What are you thinking about right now? Good or bad? Will it lead to action or remain in your head? Proverbs 15: 26 "The Lord detests the thoughts of the wicked, but those of the pure are pleasing to him." Okay, so keep this in mind.

Ever had an inappropriate thought? Who hasn't! I mean come on, look at the world we live in, how do you stay pure in that? You see, God's forgiveness washes away all impurity. Which means, though we may have some sinful thoughts, we can ask for forgiveness and it gets taken away. It's hard to keep a pure mind. It's hard to pull back those thoughts about your fiancé when you want him but know inside it's not the right time. Do it anyway because pure thinking pleases God.

Purity means that we live without sin, without blemishes in our lives. It's difficult to walk this out everyday. There are many ways we can act out in purity- modest dressing, proper thoughts, appropriate relationships with others, honesty, integrity... Yet purity begins with what we think about in our mind. Our thoughts guide our actions. We don't just sin automatically, the thought to sin is already there. James 1: 14-15 says "...but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death." 

This is why it is so important to control our thoughts. I had a friend in high school who was in a relationship and told me that her philosophy was that it was okay for her to look at other guys, just not touch. But if you're looking, than you begin thinking and once that happens, all sorts of seeds of dissatisfaction can breed in your mind. It's like a crack in the door that opens just wide enough to let other impurities through. 

Hold on for a second though- you see a hot guy walking down the street- it's pretty darn hard not to notice! What guy doesn't see a pretty girl? We have to be realistic here. So we look, right, but it can stop there. When it's a choice, that we choose to look upon other guys, for the specific purpose of looking at them because their hot, than it's a mistake. Then we're opening our minds, letting our thoughts carry us further. We can admire someone, thinking how God made them beautiful or handsome but then end it. We need to let our satisfaction come from our own spouse or boyfriend. Why do you think unfaithfulness and break ups are so prevalent? Wandering hands start with wandering thoughts. 

Romans 13:14 says "Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature." Having random inappropriate thoughts happens, it's natural, unavoidable but entertaining those thoughts is what leads to impure thinking. A thought can leave our mind and be gone in a second. If it's unhealthy, we can ask Jesus to take it away but as soon as we start to thinking about it, dwell on it, it becomes even harder for us to get out of our mind. It becomes a battle. So remember Philippians 4:8: "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."

Ask God if there are any thoughts you should not be thinking. You may not even be aware that you are doing it! After all, just entertaining those sinful thoughts in our head is sin! We don't have to actually commit the sin with our actions. We can have personal sin just by what we think. Matthew 5: 28 makes it pretty clear that our thoughts count just as much as actions do towards God; "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Psalm 66:18 says "If I had cherished sin in my heart,  the Lord would not have listened." God won't listen to us if we hold sinful thoughts in our minds on purpose. 

Purity brings freedom to love God, and love others. Sin takes that away and gives us a guilty conscience. Having a pure conscience before God brings us much more freedom and happiness inside ourselves. So let's do our best to remain pure in thought and action.

Thursday, March 18, 2010

A note on Marriage

Hey Girls,

Ever wonder why there are so many names or references towards being married? Tieing the knot, taking the plunge, getting hitched... It's a big thing when you bind yourself for life to someone else and commit to always being together. Some people really freak out at that idea. I didn't. Ever think that marriage sounds old? Like suddenly you're married and you're like an old person? Haha, just a random thought. People have so many misconceptions, like that's when the fun ends, when you have responsibilities..blah blah. I always had my own idea of marriage- for me that was when the fun began because then I knew that I would have someone to hang out with and have fun with for the rest of my life. Have you ever thought that marriage seemed like an impossible possibility? Like it's hard to imagine yourself married but at the same time you really want it? Well, it's not up to you really anyway, it's up to God. So don't worry. But I used to think that way too...

Some people place such a huge emphasis on the actual marriage ceremony that they forget about the rest of their lives!! I don't get that, ceremony and reception just last a few hours and then it's all over. For me it was always about the long term, getting the formalities of marriage over with so I could just be married- not that I didn't love wearing the white dress! Now my sister has a wedding coming up, and we're going through all the prep all over again...

When you think about marriage, what's your biggest concern? Or maybe you are married now, what is the current concern? Marriage is a lot of work but at the same time, it can be so natural and easy. I've only been married for 2 years but I've learned a lot in that time to know that I don't have everything figured out. It really makes me have to smirk or something when I come across a young couple, on the verge of vows, who act as if they have it all figured out. Boy, do they have a surprise in store for them!! Yet, usually the longer two people have been together, at least this is what it seems to me, the more they are aware of each other and know the limits of their own knowledge. It's okay to not know. After all, that's how we learn, tough as it may be.

And it makes me sad too, when I see friends who are living together, decide to get married, because I know what they're missing, the lack of the blessing. Sometimes you can't really totally understand something until you live it yourself. And thats why I so wish people did not chose to live together before marriage. They don't understand what they're cheating themselves of, how much better it could be, was meant to be. I hope that everyone listens to God, dates respectfully, gets married, then has sex and live together. Because there is such a blessing to be experienced in that, such a feeling of rightness- no guilt. You know you're living the way God intended because everything feels good, feels right, totally and completely, with no corruption. And people only know this and understand it if they commit themselves to the ways of God. It makes me wonder if this is what God feels like when he sees us doing wrong, just so filled with longing that we'd do right because he knows how great it would be for us and he wants that for us.

There is just so much to learn about having a long term relationship and being married, just the facts of daily life, forgiveness, understanding each other, communication, not letting the spark die, selflessness, compassion, and so on. But it's fun. I'd reccomend it. I think it also teaches a lot about our relationship with God, just how much he reaches out to us, wants us to be with him, totally and completely faithful.

Anyways, those are just some of my rambling thoughts of today.. feel free to comment with yours!!

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

St. Patrick's Day

Hey all,

It's Saint Patricks day today so does that mean you're gonna dress up in green, talk about rainbows, gold, leprachauns and luck? Maybe go to a pub and celebrate? Well, I was curious about who Patrick was so I did some research.

Apparently, Patrick was taken captive as a slave to Ireland where he grew in his faith and prayed often, eventually recieving direction and visions from God. He escaped and joined the church, returning to Ireland as a missionary and Christanizing the country, removing pagan practises. So in Ireland, now in days, today is both a national holiday and a holy day. Some people pray for missionaries around the world, while others just celebrate Ireland.

Yet, from such God focused beginnings, what often happens today seems so distant from historical events. (Much like Santa and Christmas eh?). Seems like most holidays start out with such God focused beginnings and then turn into a materialistic celebration (Easter and the bunny, Valentine's Day and sex...). Kinda messed up. Yet, as Christians, knowing the real meaning and truth behind events, we can chose to celebrate accordingly. I personally think it's a shame what these holidays become.

Yet, at the same time, it's not all bad. There is nothing wrong with celebrating the culture and food of a country for one day and enjoying festivities. I've always been fascinated with Ireland.  It's just the secularization and forgetting about God that I don't like.

So, have fun today all but remember that it's God who changed lives so long ago and still does today...

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

God Loves Everybody

Hey Girls,

It's kinda a no brainer right? God loves everyone. We just accept that almost blindly but do we really believe it? I was thinking about this last night. We know God loves us and we're always told that he loves everyone equally. Yet, come on, you have to admit, do you ever find this hard to believe at times? Think about when you hear about someone who gets killed for believing in Jesus, or someone who devotes their life to charity work, or someone who gets a lot of visions, seems really 'spiritual'... doesn't it ever cross your mind that maybe these people have some inside track to God's favouritism? And then you may wonder, what about me? Just a regular girl.

Well, I wanted to know what the Bible has to say about this stuff. I hear a lot of talk from people and them telling me things about God but I often like to know the foundation for it. I know God reveals more details about himself directly to our hearts and minds, to other people too but the foundation for this stuff should always be found somewhere in the Bible.

Everyone knows John 3:16 "For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not parish but have eternal life." So this establish God loves everybody. John 15:21 says "Those who accept my commandments and obey them are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them. And I will love them and reveal myself to each of them." And James 2: 1 warns against favouritism "My dear brothers and sisters, how can you claim to have faith in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ if you favour some people over others?" Okay, so with this basis in mind, we can plainly see that God loves everyone and does not chose favourites.

But yet maybe you're still thinking about the different choices people make, such as those who constantly try to please God, verses maybe those who only do it after a big catastrophe in their life or a moment of crisis. Well, the Bible is filled with examples on how Jesus took great compassion on and forgave sinners. And until we embrace the forgiveness of God, we are all unrighteous. So it doesn't matter when we believe in Jesus, just that we do. Everyone is on an equal playing field because of bring sinners. As believers in Jesus, we all have a share in him and so that makes us all equal again.

So even though we know God loves us all the same, I think it's truly important we know why we believe that and that we truly BELIEVE it! Sometimes we have a hard time accepting God's love. Other times, we accept it but we begin to feel self-righteous or entitled because of our good works and how faithful we are to God. Well that's no good either! Every good work comes from God, and is because of God, so honestly, we can only boast in God- not ourselves. As for feeling better than others because of our faithfulness to God- well, that's just a point of unfaithfulness right there- God wants humble servants.

Anyway, remember that you are loved today, and so is the person next to you, everyone is loved by God, no more, no less.  

Monday, March 15, 2010


Hi Girls,

Ever start a project and then leave it? Get bored of it, tired of it or just plain don't have the time? Maybe you're not into craft stuff and your project is more personal, like getting in shape, eating healthy or training your husband to fold his laundry.

Well, I've started a new project- a big one! Here's a pic:

Any guesses on what that's gonna be? I'll give you a hint: warm, cozy...long time in the making... I plan to knit a blanket!! Pray for me..haha. I've done hats, mittens, scarfs, even a sweater once (with lots of help) but this is my biggest project yet knitting wise. I just hope that I can keep it up and not give up after awhile because I get too tired of it. I can't stand leaving a project unfinished; it's just so defeating!! Like when I start writing a story and not finish it, sucky.. It ends up on my to finish list.

So what projects do you have on the go? Or on the shelf with intentions to one day finish? We should motivate each other to finish our projects. The Bible warns against idleness and slothfulness- I certainly don't want to fall into those catagories. And it's fun to work on something and see it through to completion. So let's just see how we do this time! 

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Sunday, Sunday

Hey Girls,

Cloudy, windy.. aw, quite the Sunday today. I hope everyone reading this is doing well. And that your mood is happier than the weather!

Well, the new blog is up. Sometimes I wish I was more computer savy, tampering around for a long time, trying to get things to work, and I just don't understand...nar..

Anyway, today I was thinking about the concept of love during my time with God. I think that we often have a strange view of love, or well, rather limited.

We know love as in, love our neighbour, love our family, love our husband, love our pets. It's this feeling, this emotion (with actions too) that we extend to others and show them how much we care for them.

But I think that love is soo much bigger than that! Love is more than a feeling, love is action. Real actions. Love alone, apart from God, is corrupt, unfulfilling, lacking. God's love, the love he extends towards us, is life giving, whole and complete, encompassing. God's love can work miracles, save lives, save souls, transform communities, change people... and so on. God's love does! It's a doing action. It performs in big ways.

I think that all of God's creating was a result of his love. God created us out of love for us. God created the world and universe out of love, from his love. God is love so everything he does has it's roots in his love. This means that love is dynamtic, a force that creates, changes things, always to the good and to bring us closer to God.

God's love is so real, so powerful. It can do anything. There are numerous Bible verses that talk about love, and God's love. The psalms especially are filled with praises for God's love. It's no wonder that creation, people and animals, have a need for love and want to be loved. This need drives people to many harmful actions because they don't correctly understand that they need to recieve this life giving force of love from God. Love is a foundation of our design. As Christians, we need to continually ask God for more of his love so we can take this love and extend it to other people, as well as love God back. The more love he gives us, the more we have to give. God can increase our ability to recieve love from him as we become closer to him.

Love is more than being good to those we already love. It stretches to everything, even to tasks we dislike or people we don't get along with. God's love should infuse all that we do, and all that we are.